Lovin When I Don't Wanna

Awhile ago, I wrote a post about loving when it's hard....(you can read it here...http://catydidgirl.blogspot.com/2015/06/loving-when-its-hard.html) but what about those times when you just straight out don't want to love them and plain hate them (maybe hate is too strong of a word...or maybe not..)???

Be honest with yourself...I think we all have a person that we just down right refuse to love!

Don't worry....I'm not judging you!! Trust me!! I have people in my life that I just hate!! This post is as much for me as it is for you!!



Whether this person gave you reason to hate them or you just flat out want to hate them, it doesn't matter! It doesn't matter who they are, or why do have this level of dislike for them, you just do, and you kind of want to!

I uh, hate to break it to you though, (myself included) that this 'emotion' (ha, you got that right!!) towards this human being (are they even human?) is sin...(darn it!!) Yeah, God says to love everybody (maybe this person won't count, maybe, just maybe there will be a legitimate reason for me to be allowed to hate them...please!!)



Nope!!! God says in the Ten Commandments, to love your neighbor as much as yourself. Unless you completely despise and hate yourself, which I'm pretty sure you don't, since we are selfish human beings, who sometimes love ourselves too much...you have to love this person (it's okay, get red in the face, scream, and throw the nearest object next to you across the room...I did that already!)

I don't want to love the person I detest either! They have done so much to bother me and torment me...( I may have twisted their words a little bit, but hey, it's probably what they mean...right?)

However, if we are truly followers of Christ, we should desire to do what is right and love this person. But sometimes, I honestly, really, really, don't want to, despite what God says!!!

But here are somethings that help me take a step in the right direction.

1) Start viewing them as human beings with a soul: I know that sounds weird, but I think it's true!! Sometime when we hate somebody our emotions get in the way and we unconsciously (or consciously) view them monster-like and think that every word they say or everything they do is pure evil (maybe a bit of an exaggeration).

If none of you feel this way then...I'm going to delete this blog, shut my laptop, and personally admit myself to a psychiatric hospital because I clearly need help!!

If you do feel the same way, then GREAT!!! Well... okay maybe not great...but hey, at least I'm not crazy!

In all seriousness, when you start looking at this person and viewing them as a person with a soul and as someone who could either be going to heaven or hell, it creates a tenderness and compassion towards that person!

Again...a step in the right direction!

2) Stop twisting their words and actions!!! I know it's hard to break old habits, but really, it only strengthens your hate and feeds the emotion!

3) Put yourself in their shoes: A classic, might I add!!

4) Let it go: Right now I'm singing that song...and since you can't hear me...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0MK7qz13bU
You can thank me later!!!



Stopping this emotion won't happen over night, it will take LOTS of prayer, dedication, and patience! But trust me, it will be worth it! Hating someone is so straining and is a weight on your shoulders!



So there you are! it won't be easy, but with God's help you can do it!! We will all be trying to love the people we hat together! And dare I say...we might actually like them??? Who knows!!

Love you all!!!
Good Luck!!
~Cait

15 Words of Wisdom

So I asked on my personal Facebook page if some people would impart some words of wisdom to the younger generation and for everybody else!!

Here are some of the responses I got!

1)  The choices and habits that you make now will not magically disappear once you reach adulthood! As the saying goes..."Old habits, die hard!"


2) This is sort of related to #1....get in the habit of reading your Bible! It doesn't get any easier as an adult! And it is one of the most important things in your life

3) Sometimes , the most valuable lessons aren't taught within the walls of a classroom!


4) "Always speak up for those who can't speak for themselves, always stand up for those weaker than you, and all it takes for evil to prosper is for a good man to do nothing!" Thank you Edmund Burke for some inspiring words!

5) You will learn and observe many things in life...especially in the college years....so make sure to constantly analyze and reevaluate everything and to take it back to the Bible to evaluate it's truth!

6) Travel now and see as much as you can!! The older you get...the busier you get! So do it now when you have the time AND the energy!

7) Start saving for retirement now! A $100 or two each month starting as soon as possible will cause you to be able to live comfortably later on when you retire!

8) Read history!I can't tell you how many times history has repeated itself! You would think that if it happened once already we would learn from our mistakes...but no! "You can never make the same mistake twice, because the second time you make it, it's not a mistake...it's a choice."






9) Make time to serve others every week! No matter how small the act of service is to someone, it can still make a difference!

10) You can't change a person!!! I can't tell you how many times I have heard people say that! It is impossible to change a person...there is only one who can change a person's heart and the is Christ! He can change their hearts, causing them to change the way the view life act!

11) Be Authentic and be yourself! Nuff said!

12) Eliminate 'friends' who tear you down, don't respect you, and are all around a bad influence! The people you hangout with is the they type of person you will eventually become! Surround yourself with people who constantly build you up, encourage you, respect you, want to love life with you, and will constantly push you past your limits!

13) People are always watching and listening to what you say and do so make sure that you are always speaking what is true and good and acting like a true follower of Christ!

14) Challenge yourself!

15) Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone: The comfort zone is...well...comfortable! We like to stay there because when we step outside of it we feel scared and insecure and I don't know if there is a single person who likes to feel awkward or scared! I know I don't! However, God speaks to us and reveals things to us when we are most scared or insecure! I know that when I grew most, spiritually, it was when I was fully outside of my comfort zone! I was scared and had to fully rely on Christ, which allowed him to show me things up close and personal!